The quickest path to influencing others and getting them to align with your efforts, whether in your professional or personal life, is almost always what we call the indirect approach. We can use the indirect approach to learn how to convince someone to do something that’s best for the team and mission.
Losing your cool may sometimes work in an immediate situation, to get people’s attention. It may force someone to do a certain thing your way. But more often, it generates conflict and animosity. It escalates a situation that should be de-escalated. In the long run, losing your temper and allowing yourself to be ruled by emotion only burns relationships and results in a loss of respect by all who can see that you can’t control yourself.