The Golden Rule (Article)

I wore a gold shirt to my first Echelon Front event. Think about that for a second. The first time I worked with Jocko Willink and Leif Babin at an Echelon Front training event with a client, I was dressed in a bright gold polo shirt. Anyone that reads our insights likely follows Echelon Front and knows Jocko and Leif through social media. And you know that a canary yellow shirt isn’t on brand. Having served with them in Iraq, I knew that as well. So, I was shocked when they asked me to wear it.
And yet, that’s exactly what Leif had asked me to do. I have photographic proof that Leif texted me to wear a gold shirt (exhibit A below). When he did, I was confused, a little worried, and even began wondering if my decision to join them at the event was a mistake. But Leif asked me to wear it. So I did.
I was simply doing what he told me to do. I didn’t ask him why, and I didn’t tell him it didn’t make sense to me because I was afraid to. I was worried that it would look like I was pushing back and questioning him. I was afraid to make a bad first impression.
Well I have news for you, when it comes to first impressions, wearing a gold shirt is a lot worse than asking a question.
Now, I could tell you that the reason I wore the shirt was because the autocorrect in Leif’s text changed ‘polo shirt’ to ‘gold shirt’. But the real reason is that I failed to take Ownership of my own confusion and fix the problem. Had I done that, in a matter of seconds, I would have known to wear black. And Jocko never would have had to ask me, “What’s with the shirt, Dave”? On my first day.
As a subordinate, if something doesn’t make sense to you, ask. It’s really that simple. Just take Ownership of the situation by asking a simple question. Clear up the confusion, solve the problem, and put yourself in a position to help the team, and your boss, be successful.
Take ownership as a subordinate by asking
clarifying questions when you don’t understand something.
You will put yourself in a position to help the team, and your boss, be successful.

What is something you’ve avoided asking questions about for fear of looking bad? What questions do you need to ask to put yourself in a better position?